By Sabrina Schlesinger
I am a good mix of left and right brain. I am what some personality tests would call a choleric melancholy. The choleric part of me means I have a strong sense to be in charge, take the bull by the horns and come up with solutions (and expect people to follow). The equally melancholy side of me means I have a very creative mind; I feel things deeply and have an expressive imagination.
When I was little my imagination was vivid. Who am I kidding, it still is! But I remember one night I was sitting at the edge of my parents bed making up a story, but not just any story, a scary story. Fast forward half way through it where I scared myself so much I had to crawl up towards my parents and got smack dab in between them so I could feel safe again. When I was a teenager we had a two-story house and I lived in the basement. If I was alone in the house, especially at night, and had to go downstairs for something, I would book up the stairs so fast because I was certain the Boogeyman was trying to grab me by my heals to pull be into my nightmares. I could tell you story after story where my imagination got the best of me, but they all ended the same…with me getting around someone else so I could feel safe.
There is something about have someone with you in the darkness that causes your confidence to boost. I call it the power of presence. The presence of another person with us can calm all of our fears.
As I am navigating this life of motherhood, I am always aware that there are some lessons I must teach my kids, and this is one of them.
Matthew 28:20 says, “I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” (NLT)
My oldest daughter only has a few years left of High School. This summer I will trust her with the keys to a car and she will drive on the streets and highways of southern California all by herself (scary, I know!). I cannot control all that will happen in her life, nor do I want to. I cannot protect her from all that will happen or shield her from pain and atrocities. But one thing I can do is equip her and the rest of my kids with the knowledge that in every situation, good, bad and horribly scary, they are not alone.
When Jesus said those final words before ascending into the heaven’s, He was saying He will never leave us or forsake us. He was literally saying He will never let us down or walk away from us. He is with us…always.
He doesn’t promise us that troubles won’t come our way, but He does promise that His presence will be with us.
John 16:33 says, “…Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”
In the car on our way to work, in the doctor’s office when we receive the bad report, in the grocery store, in the boardroom, in the lawyer’s office, He is with us…always.
There is peace that comes in knowing His presence is near. He has got a hold of us and isn’t leaving us to face the hard days alone. If we will allow Him, He will comfort us when we are sad, He will give us courage when we are scared, He will give us calm when we are in crisis and He will give us wisdom when we are faced with decisions. You are not alone.
Allow your kids to join you in this process. Let them see and hear you calling out to Jesus when you are on shaky ground. Let’s not paint the inaccurate picture that following Jesus means all life’s worries and heartaches go away. We are setting them up for failure if we say or imply such things. Rather let’s talk to them about how to talk to God and hear His voice when surrounded by the unknown and scary places that life can bring us to.
The smallest among us is large when we know WHO is standing beside us.
Sabrina is a mother to three biological girls and one adopted boy. She is also a pastor’s wife, freelance graphic designer and mom coach! She resides in beautiful San Diego where the sun shines every day. She prefers chai lattes over coffee, mac-n-cheese over vegetables, and staying in over going out. Check her out on Instagram and Facebook!