You Are Not Alone

By Sabrina Schlesinger

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I am a good mix of left and right brain. I am what some personality tests would call a choleric melancholy. The choleric part of me means I have a strong sense to be in charge, take the bull by the horns and come up with solutions (and expect people to follow). The equally melancholy side of me means I have a very creative mind; I feel things deeply and have an expressive imagination.

When I was little my imagination was vivid. Who am I kidding, it still is! But I remember one night I was sitting at the edge of my parents bed making up a story, but not just any story, a scary story. Fast forward half way through it where I scared myself so much I had to crawl up towards my parents and got smack dab in between them so I could feel safe again. When I was a teenager we had a two-story house and I lived in the basement. If I was alone in the house, especially at night, and had to go downstairs for something, I would book up the stairs so fast because I was certain the Boogeyman was trying to grab me by my heals to pull be into my nightmares. I could tell you story after story where my imagination got the best of me, but they all ended the same…with me getting around someone else so I could feel safe.

There is something about have someone with you in the darkness that causes your confidence to boost. I call it the power of presence. The presence of another person with us can calm all of our fears.

As I am navigating this life of motherhood, I am always aware that there are some lessons I must teach my kids, and this is one of them.

Matthew 28:20 says, “I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” (NLT)

My oldest daughter only has a few years left of High School. This summer I will trust her with the keys to a car and she will drive on the streets and highways of southern California all by herself (scary, I know!). I cannot control all that will happen in her life, nor do I want to. I cannot protect her from all that will happen or shield her from pain and atrocities. But one thing I can do is equip her and the rest of my kids with the knowledge that in every situation, good, bad and horribly scary, they are not alone.

When Jesus said those final words before ascending into the heaven’s, He was saying He will never leave us or forsake us. He was literally saying He will never let us down or walk away from us. He is with us…always.

He doesn’t promise us that troubles won’t come our way, but He does promise that His presence will be with us. 

John 16:33 says, “…Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”

In the car on our way to work, in the doctor’s office when we receive the bad report, in the grocery store, in the boardroom, in the lawyer’s office, He is with us…always.

There is peace that comes in knowing His presence is near. He has got a hold of us and isn’t leaving us to face the hard days alone. If we will allow Him, He will comfort us when we are sad, He will give us courage when we are scared, He will give us calm when we are in crisis and He will give us wisdom when we are faced with decisions. You are not alone.

Allow your kids to join you in this process. Let them see and hear you calling out to Jesus when you are on shaky ground. Let’s not paint the inaccurate picture that following Jesus means all life’s worries and heartaches go away. We are setting them up for failure if we say or imply such things. Rather let’s talk to them about how to talk to God and hear His voice when surrounded by the unknown and scary places that life can bring us to.

The smallest among us is large when we know WHO is standing beside us.


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Sabrina is a mother to three biological girls and one adopted boy. She is also a pastor’s wife, freelance graphic designer and mom coach! She resides in beautiful San Diego where the sun shines every day. She prefers chai lattes over coffee, mac-n-cheese over vegetables, and staying in over going out. Check her out on Instagram and Facebook!


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Sabrina Schlesinger

I am officially middle-aged! I have gone up the hill and am now SLOWLY going down the other side.

I am married to my best friend! No really! Our first 10 months of dating were spent entirely in group settings, either working along side each other in ministry or at our families homes. We never had alone time. We never held hands. We never kissed. So we had a great amount of time to talk and really get to know each other. We read books, received counsel from our pastors, discussed our strengths and weaknesses in front of our parents, and built a foundation of friendship that I am forever grateful for. And let me tell you...when we did have our first kiss 10 months in....there were fireworks baby!!!! We are approaching our 17th anniversary and co-pastor Grace Church in Oceanside, CA. We are living out or dream and calling side by side.

I am a mom of 4. We have three girls and a boy.

When we gave birth to my first girl, Sophie (now 16), we thought we were amazing parents. She slept through the night, hardly every fussed, was beautiful and easy. First child syndrome...I know.

When I gave birth to Mattie (now 14) nearly two years later everything changed. She was colicky from the start, she had red raspberries on her face that turned BRIGHT RED when she screamed...so that was all the time, and as she grew, it didn't get any better. I seriously thought at one point she was demon possessed because her outrageous fits where over the top. I could often be found in a fetal position crying when Matthew, my husband came home. Little did I know then that Mattie and her over-the-top fits would be the catalyst for so many future ministry moments with other moms in desperate need of help and advice on raising toddlers...who too were crazy!

We thought we were done. After Mattie I was like, "No way, I can't risk having another kid like that! The only way I will get pregnant again is if God speaks to me directly, and I don't think He is planning that." Welp....I was wrong. I heard God speak to me one night as I was at a conference that we were to have a third child and He spoke some very special promises to me about this child. So out popped Lillian (aka Lily - now 11).

Lily wass one of those babies that everyone gravitated too. She had and still does have a spirit about her that is so welcoming, loving, and kind. People just love her and she loves people. I am so glad I obeyed the Lord on this one. After Lily we felt done. This time Matthew said, "If we are supposed to have any more children, God is going to have to speak to me directly." Fast forward 9 years!

In August of 2016 we were on a much needed family vacation, the five of us. It was at this time that God whispered in the ear of my husband that we were to adopt a child from our county. Matthew told me what God said and of course, I said, "Let's do it!" I will write another post about our adoption story later, but November 1st, 2017, at age 4 1/2, Shawn (now 6) came into our home and became our son.

I am a freelance graphic designer by trade and a pastor by calling, but I felt like there was something more I should be doing. Recently I asked myself a question..."What brings me life?" It was easy for me to answer. I LOVE helping young moms navigate through motherhood. I love giving advice to help moms get through tough and trying seasons of life. There is a generation of moms out there who have broken relationships with their own mothers and feel like they have no one to turn to. That breaks my heart. No mom should have to go through life alone with nobody to lean on. And this is where Mom Mentor was birthed.

So that is me in a nutshell. I am pretty simple, not high maintenance, a lover of mac-and-cheese and chai lattes, and slightly obsessed with all things dystopian. I am glad to have met you and I look forward to our journey together!

Love & Blessings,

Sabrina