Why We Need Mothers

By Sabrina Schlesinger

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We hear a lot about the Father-heart of God, which has radically changed my life as you can read in my article, Why We Need Fathers. Seriously, I have had so many beautiful encounters with God as my father. It has brought so much transformation and healing in my life, I could write a book about it. But did you know that in Genesis 1:27 it says God made man in His image, both male and female! So we can conclude that if there is a Father-heart of God, there is also a Mother-heart of God. How cool is that! Unfortunately, this facet of God’s character has been sorely undertaught .

By no means has our enemy underestimated this facet of God though. In fact, we see out of the gate Lucifer’s strategy to derail the purposes and plans of God when he beelined it to the woman FIRST to deceive her. Why? One word…influence.

“The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world!”~ William Ross Wallace

Wow, what a statement. If Satan knew the power of a woman’s influence back in the original day, don’t you think we should too? And if he was using that strategy back then, we can be assured that he is still using the same one today. Control and deceive the woman, and you can influence the man, the children, and the nation.

Ladies, it starts with us! It starts with knowing we have this incredible gift of influence handed to us by God, and with that we can do great and terrible things. 

In the day in which we live, I often see women striving to be like men, in competition with men, and fighting for equality with men. And although I think there are things worth contending for, I also believe many of us have undervalued the inherent gifts that make us unique, significant, and potent. My hope today is to remind us of how powerful the Mother-heart of God is and that He has placed these divine qualities in you for a purpose, and only you can bring them to the table. 

1.    We are life-givers- Literally and figuratively! God chose to partner with US to be the givers of life! We have become carriers of the promise, the seed, and the future. With our words we mold and shape those around us. With our bodies we carry the next generation. With our spirit we can see potential in someone or something. Are there dead things around you? Be the one to breathe life to it! Is there a need in your church or community? You may be just the person they need to start something that will be a fountain of life for others to drink from. Speak life into existence where there is lack. Let your faith grow and be contagious to all who are around you.

2.    We are teachers– There is a natural bent in us to see to teach life skills and life lessons in every arena of life. We may never teach in a school classroom, but life offers us a million opportunities to teach our kids, our family, our neighbors, friends and even strangers how to navigate the highs and lows life brings our way. People are always watching and listening. They are watching how you respond when you are treated unfairly. They are listening to how you treat the unlovely people in your life. They are learning how to trust God based on your reactions to life’s challenges. You are a teacher, whether you know it or not, and whether you like it or not. So be careful, because little eyes are picking up on it all and catching what you are throwing down.

3.    We are discerners– It always amazes me how women have this unique intuition. We are born with the ability to detect emotions and atmospheres in our kids, home, and family life. We can usually tell when something feels “off” or when there is a threat to our family, even if it cannot be seen with our natural eye. When coupled with faith and prayer, this can be a beautiful gift, often used to engage in spiritual warfare.But when it partners with fear and criticism, our gift can be detrimental to our relationships and keep our loved ones and us afraid of taking risks. We must be aware of the strategies of the enemy, but lets not forget that with God, we are more than conquerors. If He is for us, who can be against us! God has given us authority over it all, so lets use this gift to exercise our spiritual authority to “knock down strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments” to “destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God” and to “capture rebellious thoughts”. (2 Corinthians 10:3-6 MSG). 

4.    We are nurturers– In no regard to ourselves, when our kids are hurt…like really hurt…we run to their rescue. We could care less if they get dirt and blood on our clean clothes. When they are hungry, we feed them. When they are dirty, stinky, and smelly, we clean them. When they are sad, we comfort them. And when they are hurting, we do everything we can to heal them. This is the most beautiful side of God that He deposited into us…mothers. His heart to nurture, grow, care for, and have compassion on His children is one I cherish most. Without it, so much in our world would be lost, cold, official, and dark. The nurturers of this world are what make it so colorful, welcoming, and beautiful.It may look different for you then your sister next door, but we all nurture in a unique way that this generation desperately needs. 

5.    We are warriors– There is nothing scarier than a mom whose kids are being threatened.  That mama bear instinct in us is a divine attribute that mirrors how God feels about all His children when they are threatened and mistreated.The Mother-heart of God is one that fiercely loves us, would do anything for us, and did! It is the Mother-heart of God who so longed to be reconciled with mankind that a plan was put into action to send His Son who would be spotless and perfect, would become the ultimate and willing sacrifice, and die a brutal death that we deserved, so that we could once again be close and in relationship with Him again. Just like in the Garden of Eden, He longed to have that unbroken fellowship with His children…with you and with me. And it is the mothers today, who will bend over backwards, and work however many jobs she has to, to see her children succeed in this life. It is the mothers who sound alarms when there is injustice. It is the mothers who speak up on behalf of those who cannot speak for themselves. This bravery, this fearlessness, this boldness comes from carrying this child in your womb (or your heart for those of us who have adopted) for months on end. Don’t mess with momma…because she will cut you! LOL

Do you see it friend? Do you see how needed you are, just as you are? You don’t need to be “him”. You don’t even need to do it all. You need to be you…a woman, a mother, a sister, a daughter. Without you, our world lacks so much. Can you be a boss and a mother? Heck yes! Can you be a woman and a CEO? You better believe it! This isn’t about what you can or cannot do, it is about not abandoning the essence of who you are, celebrating and embracing our differences as men and women. God made us different on purpose! One isn’t better than the other. One isn’t more important than the other. One isn’t more needed than the other. This isn’t a man’s world and this isn’t a woman’s world. Honor the differences and be exactly who God created you to be. When we do this, everybody wins.


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Sabrina is a mother to three biological girls and one adopted boy. She is a pastor’s wife, graphic designer, and founder of Mom Mentor. Along with her husband, Matthew, they pastor Grace Church in Oceanside, CA and host Parenting on the Go and Marriage on the Go Podcasts! She resides in beautiful San Diego where the sun shines every day. She prefers chai lattes over coffee, mac-n-cheese over vegetables, and staying in over going out. Check her out on Instagram and Facebook!


 

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Sabrina Schlesinger

I am officially middle-aged! I have gone up the hill and am now SLOWLY going down the other side.

I am married to my best friend! No really! Our first 10 months of dating were spent entirely in group settings, either working along side each other in ministry or at our families homes. We never had alone time. We never held hands. We never kissed. So we had a great amount of time to talk and really get to know each other. We read books, received counsel from our pastors, discussed our strengths and weaknesses in front of our parents, and built a foundation of friendship that I am forever grateful for. And let me tell you...when we did have our first kiss 10 months in....there were fireworks baby!!!! We are approaching our 17th anniversary and co-pastor Grace Church in Oceanside, CA. We are living out or dream and calling side by side.

I am a mom of 4. We have three girls and a boy.

When we gave birth to my first girl, Sophie (now 16), we thought we were amazing parents. She slept through the night, hardly every fussed, was beautiful and easy. First child syndrome...I know.

When I gave birth to Mattie (now 14) nearly two years later everything changed. She was colicky from the start, she had red raspberries on her face that turned BRIGHT RED when she screamed...so that was all the time, and as she grew, it didn't get any better. I seriously thought at one point she was demon possessed because her outrageous fits where over the top. I could often be found in a fetal position crying when Matthew, my husband came home. Little did I know then that Mattie and her over-the-top fits would be the catalyst for so many future ministry moments with other moms in desperate need of help and advice on raising toddlers...who too were crazy!

We thought we were done. After Mattie I was like, "No way, I can't risk having another kid like that! The only way I will get pregnant again is if God speaks to me directly, and I don't think He is planning that." Welp....I was wrong. I heard God speak to me one night as I was at a conference that we were to have a third child and He spoke some very special promises to me about this child. So out popped Lillian (aka Lily - now 11).

Lily wass one of those babies that everyone gravitated too. She had and still does have a spirit about her that is so welcoming, loving, and kind. People just love her and she loves people. I am so glad I obeyed the Lord on this one. After Lily we felt done. This time Matthew said, "If we are supposed to have any more children, God is going to have to speak to me directly." Fast forward 9 years!

In August of 2016 we were on a much needed family vacation, the five of us. It was at this time that God whispered in the ear of my husband that we were to adopt a child from our county. Matthew told me what God said and of course, I said, "Let's do it!" I will write another post about our adoption story later, but November 1st, 2017, at age 4 1/2, Shawn (now 6) came into our home and became our son.

I am a freelance graphic designer by trade and a pastor by calling, but I felt like there was something more I should be doing. Recently I asked myself a question..."What brings me life?" It was easy for me to answer. I LOVE helping young moms navigate through motherhood. I love giving advice to help moms get through tough and trying seasons of life. There is a generation of moms out there who have broken relationships with their own mothers and feel like they have no one to turn to. That breaks my heart. No mom should have to go through life alone with nobody to lean on. And this is where Mom Mentor was birthed.

So that is me in a nutshell. I am pretty simple, not high maintenance, a lover of mac-and-cheese and chai lattes, and slightly obsessed with all things dystopian. I am glad to have met you and I look forward to our journey together!

Love & Blessings,

Sabrina