By Sabrina Schlesinger
I have a favorite kid and I'm not afraid to admit it. I bring them in for a hug and whisper in their ear (even when the others kids are nearby) “You’re my favorite!”
I know...we aren’t “supposed” to have favorites, but I can’t help it! I love the time I get to spend with them. I love their personality and how unique they are. I love their face, their smile and their laugh. They fill my heart with joy unspeakable so I can’t help but express to them where they stand in my heart!
For years I said the opposite. I told my children I loved them all the same, because that is what a "good" mom says. But then I started thinking about how I am God’s favorite. I seriously think this! I am the apple of His eye and His beloved...basically His favorite! And yes, I know He feels that way about you too, but somehow in the midst of all that He does and all that He is, He manages to see little me and makes me feel like I am His one and only. I hope you feel like you are His favorite too...because you are.
When I realized that our Heavenly Father allows us all to feel like we are His numero uno, I thought I should do the same for my kids!
So I started telling each one they were my favorite child…and more importantly, why. After saying this to each one over and over, I saw a beautiful transformation take place in my kids! One of my kids, who struggles with insecurity, took some convincing. Another felt bad for the other kids because she cares so deeply about others. Now they leave me notes signed by “your favorite child” and nothing could make me happier. I want them to walk in the confidence of my love for them and to know how truly special they are.
Now...I know that THEY know that I have told them all this. The secret is out....as intended....but there is still so much power when they hear these words from their mama. I love seeing the pep in their step as they walk around as mom’s “favorite child!”
Confidence is an interesting thing. The world says we are more confident when we seemingly have all of our ducks in a row....when we look like a certain image and have a certain status. But the message I am determined to teach my kids is that confidence, the unshakeable kind, comes from WHO we belong to and the love He has for us.
There is something so liberating when we know that we can't shake His love. It isn't earned, it isn't lost.
This kind of freedom is available for our kids too. They are faced with all kinds of pressures in life. They may seem insignificant to us in light of the pressures we face, but their issues are real and daunting to them. They fear disappointing us, failing us and facing embarrassment in front of their peers. They feel the strain to conform to society's images of beauty and popularity. If my words of life and unconditional love can release the plug on the building tension inside of them, then by all means, I am going to do it.
So go ahead and have your favorite! Let them in on the secret and see what it unleashes in their heart.
And don't forget, you are His favorite too!
Love + Blessings,
Sabrina is a mother to three biological girls and one adopted boy. She is also a pastor’s wife, freelance graphic designer, and mom coach! She resides in beautiful San Diego where the sun shines every day. She prefers chai lattes over coffee, mac-n-cheese over vegetables, and staying in over going out. Check her out on Instagram and Facebook!