When Your Kids Are Ready and You Are Not...

By Christi Stone

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“He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, “He is my refuge and my fortress; My God, in Him I will trust.”” Psalms 91:1-2 NKJV

“I will love You, O LORD, my strength. The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer; My God, my strength, in whom I will trust; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised; So shall I be saved from my enemies.” Psalms 18:1-3 NKJV 

I started this article out with these two scriptures because these have been my lifeline in the last few weeks. 

Most of you know I am a mom of six beautiful children. 

Recently, I encountered a season with one of my children I had yet to face. I had to let go. My second oldest son’s dream since he was a little boy was to serve in the United States Army as a Ranger, and when our kids are young it seems like a lifetime before a dream will come to pass…and then you blink. 

A few weeks ago, I found myself saying not, “goodbye” but rather “see ya later” to my son. As I watched him walk away into his destiny and the call of God he felt upon his life, I knew that I was in for more than just missing him, but I was headed for uncharted waters. I now had to release my control and FULLY trust Jesus to take care of my boy. Without me. I realized in a flash of a moment that my boy was grown up and ready to take on the world. My joy collided with my grief as I took solace in knowing that even though mom’s can’t go to bootcamp…Jesus can. 

As those first minutes turned into hours and hours into days, my heart ached with grief and I had nowhere to turn but to the Word of God. Psalm 18 and Psalm 91 became the breath of life for me as I was reminded of the protection that surrounds my son and me. I was reminded as I pressed in that God has always had my son in the shelter of his protection, and while my son was separated from me, he wasn’t separated from Him. 

So what do we do when our kids are called and it’s their time to shine and we aren’t ready? Press in. Press in and allow God to move you past the boundaries and comfort you knew and do what only He can.

I know my son will be different when he returns home from boot camp, but so will I. 

Love your babies, hold them tight, declare promises over them, and when it’s time…watch them fly.


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Christi is a wife and mom to six children through blended family. She attends and leads at Garden Valley Church in Roseburg, Oregon, is a published author, and founder of Just Be You Ministries. Her favorite drink is cold brew coffee and her favorite sweet treat is an old fashioned chocolate donut. She enjoys reading, traveling and hosting her friends and family at home. Check her out on Instagram and Facebook!