When Your Feelings Betray You

By Sabrina Schlesinger

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My feelings are unreliable, both as a woman and as a mom. One day I can feel on top of the world, the next in the depths of despair. My husband, before we got married, told me one of his favorite things about me was I was unemotional! Guess I fooled him. LOL

But seriously, my emotions frustrate me constantly. Can anyone else relate? They are consistently unreliable and if I let them, would lead me to make some horrible decisions.

One of my all-time favorite scriptures is Psalm 73:26. It says, “My flesh and my heart may fail; but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” (NASB) Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way that I cannot rely on my emotions. My feelings and emotions play a beautiful role in life, but they are meant to be the supporting cast, not the lead actress in the movie that is MY LIFE! When our feelings, our heart, and our emotions take the lead, all sorts of chaos, confusion, and inconsistencies take place.

So how can we start getting these feelings under control?

Proverbs 3:5 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.” (NLT)

To trust means to be confident in, to feel safe and to be secure. But if you are anything like me, I find myself in a perpetual tug-of-war over what concerns me with the Lord. I give it to Him, then, I take it back. Repeat that about 1000x a day. I am so grateful He is patient with me in this process of letting go and letting God!

I find when I take those issues that are on my heart and mind and mentally give them to the Lord…when I relinquish my control and let go of my right to have it all figured out, it is at that moment the peace of God overwhelms me in the best possible way.

What are you holding onto today that you need to let go of? It could be small cares, like, “I hope my child behaves at school today!” to big worries of health, finances and relationships.

Whatever you are carrying today, remember this…we were never designed to carry such weight. When we choose to carry these worries, we experience repercussions like ulcers, sleep-depravation, breakouts, hair loss, panic attacks, and the list goes on. Our bodies are giving us warning signs that we are not created to carry this. But I know someone who is! He is the master of taking our ugly and giving us beauty in exchange.

  • When we give Him our storms, He gives us His peace.
  • When we give Him our sickness, He gives us His healing.
  • When we give Him our fears, He gives us His courage.
  • When we give Him our heartache, He gives us His hope.

So trust Him. He is SO good. He loves you, and what concerns you, concerns Him.

“Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you.” 1 Peter 5:7 NLT


Sabrina is a mother to three biological girls and one adopted boy. She is also a pastor’s wife, freelance graphic designer and mom coach! She resides in beautiful San Diego where the sun shines every day. She prefers chai lattes over coffee, mac-n-cheese over vegetables, and staying in over going out. Check her out on Instagram and Facebook!


Sabrina Schlesinger

I am officially middle-aged! I have gone up the hill and am now SLOWLY going down the other side.

I am married to my best friend! No really! Our first 10 months of dating were spent entirely in group settings, either working along side each other in ministry or at our families homes. We never had alone time. We never held hands. We never kissed. So we had a great amount of time to talk and really get to know each other. We read books, received counsel from our pastors, discussed our strengths and weaknesses in front of our parents, and built a foundation of friendship that I am forever grateful for. And let me tell you...when we did have our first kiss 10 months in....there were fireworks baby!!!! We are approaching our 17th anniversary and co-pastor Grace Church in Oceanside, CA. We are living out or dream and calling side by side.

I am a mom of 4. We have three girls and a boy.

When we gave birth to my first girl, Sophie (now 16), we thought we were amazing parents. She slept through the night, hardly every fussed, was beautiful and easy. First child syndrome...I know.

When I gave birth to Mattie (now 14) nearly two years later everything changed. She was colicky from the start, she had red raspberries on her face that turned BRIGHT RED when she screamed...so that was all the time, and as she grew, it didn't get any better. I seriously thought at one point she was demon possessed because her outrageous fits where over the top. I could often be found in a fetal position crying when Matthew, my husband came home. Little did I know then that Mattie and her over-the-top fits would be the catalyst for so many future ministry moments with other moms in desperate need of help and advice on raising toddlers...who too were crazy!

We thought we were done. After Mattie I was like, "No way, I can't risk having another kid like that! The only way I will get pregnant again is if God speaks to me directly, and I don't think He is planning that." Welp....I was wrong. I heard God speak to me one night as I was at a conference that we were to have a third child and He spoke some very special promises to me about this child. So out popped Lillian (aka Lily - now 11).

Lily wass one of those babies that everyone gravitated too. She had and still does have a spirit about her that is so welcoming, loving, and kind. People just love her and she loves people. I am so glad I obeyed the Lord on this one. After Lily we felt done. This time Matthew said, "If we are supposed to have any more children, God is going to have to speak to me directly." Fast forward 9 years!

In August of 2016 we were on a much needed family vacation, the five of us. It was at this time that God whispered in the ear of my husband that we were to adopt a child from our county. Matthew told me what God said and of course, I said, "Let's do it!" I will write another post about our adoption story later, but November 1st, 2017, at age 4 1/2, Shawn (now 6) came into our home and became our son.

I am a freelance graphic designer by trade and a pastor by calling, but I felt like there was something more I should be doing. Recently I asked myself a question..."What brings me life?" It was easy for me to answer. I LOVE helping young moms navigate through motherhood. I love giving advice to help moms get through tough and trying seasons of life. There is a generation of moms out there who have broken relationships with their own mothers and feel like they have no one to turn to. That breaks my heart. No mom should have to go through life alone with nobody to lean on. And this is where Mom Mentor was birthed.

So that is me in a nutshell. I am pretty simple, not high maintenance, a lover of mac-and-cheese and chai lattes, and slightly obsessed with all things dystopian. I am glad to have met you and I look forward to our journey together!

Love & Blessings,