The Beginning

By Sabrina Schlesinger

Adulting is hard, but let's be real...Momming can be even harder. There are so many sweet moments as a mom; from first giggles and first steps to your kids leaving love letters to you.

But this isn't about the sweet moments.

This is about the hard moments. The moments where you feel like hiding in the bathroom and playing Candy Crush...the moments you scream at your kids and mom guilt sets in...the moments where you can see yourself throwing in the towel and walking out the door, because you haven't had a good nights sleep in years and can't handle the temper tantrums anymore. Today is about THOSE moments, when you are at the end of your rope and you don't know what else to do or who to turn to. 

I have heard so many moms tell me they feel like complete failures and feel so alone. I have met so many who didn't have great examples growing up so they feel like they are just "winging it" and crossing their fingers that their kids will turn out okay. And I hear you. I see you. I am hear to let you know YOU ARE NOT ALONE. 

Mom Mentor is me...a mom of 15 years, and a wife of almost 17 years, who has learned some great things along the way. A mom who has felt the pressures of colicky babies and could be found crying in the fetal position on the bedroom floor, because I felt my brain was going to explode. I am a mom who had a three year old that threw such intense fits that I thought she was demon possessed! I was that mom who got the looks at the restaurant when my child decided that it was a good time to throw a massive screaming fit; I felt ashamed, embarrassed and thought, "What am I doing wrong?"

So you are not alone. I will share some of the best advice I have received, and some of the best lessons I have learned over the years.

If you have questions or want to know about a certain subject, leave a comment and I will do my best to cover it.

One thing I won't do...I won't pretend to know it all. I am an imperfect mom (my kids will attest to that), just like you, who is learning, growing, and acquiring wisdom as I go. 

So let's get real and go on this journey together. You are not alone.

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Sabrina Schlesinger

I am officially middle-aged! I have gone up the hill and am now SLOWLY going down the other side.

I am married to my best friend! No really! Our first 10 months of dating were spent entirely in group settings, either working along side each other in ministry or at our families homes. We never had alone time. We never held hands. We never kissed. So we had a great amount of time to talk and really get to know each other. We read books, received counsel from our pastors, discussed our strengths and weaknesses in front of our parents, and built a foundation of friendship that I am forever grateful for. And let me tell you...when we did have our first kiss 10 months in....there were fireworks baby!!!! We are approaching our 17th anniversary and co-pastor Grace Church in Oceanside, CA. We are living out or dream and calling side by side.

I am a mom of 4. We have three girls and a boy.

When we gave birth to my first girl, Sophie (now 16), we thought we were amazing parents. She slept through the night, hardly every fussed, was beautiful and easy. First child syndrome...I know.

When I gave birth to Mattie (now 14) nearly two years later everything changed. She was colicky from the start, she had red raspberries on her face that turned BRIGHT RED when she screamed...so that was all the time, and as she grew, it didn't get any better. I seriously thought at one point she was demon possessed because her outrageous fits where over the top. I could often be found in a fetal position crying when Matthew, my husband came home. Little did I know then that Mattie and her over-the-top fits would be the catalyst for so many future ministry moments with other moms in desperate need of help and advice on raising toddlers...who too were crazy!

We thought we were done. After Mattie I was like, "No way, I can't risk having another kid like that! The only way I will get pregnant again is if God speaks to me directly, and I don't think He is planning that." Welp....I was wrong. I heard God speak to me one night as I was at a conference that we were to have a third child and He spoke some very special promises to me about this child. So out popped Lillian (aka Lily - now 11).

Lily wass one of those babies that everyone gravitated too. She had and still does have a spirit about her that is so welcoming, loving, and kind. People just love her and she loves people. I am so glad I obeyed the Lord on this one. After Lily we felt done. This time Matthew said, "If we are supposed to have any more children, God is going to have to speak to me directly." Fast forward 9 years!

In August of 2016 we were on a much needed family vacation, the five of us. It was at this time that God whispered in the ear of my husband that we were to adopt a child from our county. Matthew told me what God said and of course, I said, "Let's do it!" I will write another post about our adoption story later, but November 1st, 2017, at age 4 1/2, Shawn (now 6) came into our home and became our son.

I am a freelance graphic designer by trade and a pastor by calling, but I felt like there was something more I should be doing. Recently I asked myself a question..."What brings me life?" It was easy for me to answer. I LOVE helping young moms navigate through motherhood. I love giving advice to help moms get through tough and trying seasons of life. There is a generation of moms out there who have broken relationships with their own mothers and feel like they have no one to turn to. That breaks my heart. No mom should have to go through life alone with nobody to lean on. And this is where Mom Mentor was birthed.

So that is me in a nutshell. I am pretty simple, not high maintenance, a lover of mac-and-cheese and chai lattes, and slightly obsessed with all things dystopian. I am glad to have met you and I look forward to our journey together!

Love & Blessings,

Sabrina