How to Parent in a Drought

How to Parent in a Drought

So often I read articles about how to parent when I “think” I have it all together but what happens when I find myself in a season of drought? How do I continue to be and do everything that is my “normal” as a mom to do? I don’t. It took me a long time to learn that truth but once I had the “ta da” that not just as the seasons will change, so will your role as mom. When I recognized and adopted this truth I found a new onset of freedom.

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A Case for Compassion

A Case for Compassion

I’ll always remember entering the abortion clinic with life inside of me and leaving with a void, emptiness and detachment so confusing that I felt less than human; only to be met by the hurtful shouts, signs and stones hurled by protesters. The most heavy and haunting stone of all was being called a “murderer”! I felt the piercing conviction of a wound so deep that I accepted, adopted, and attached to this label of degradation repeatedly in mind.

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I’m Afraid of You

I’m Afraid of You

Before we begin, can we all just agree on a few things? First, let’s just agree that motherhood is hard. Period. Second, lets agree that we are all doing the best we can at any given moment! Finally, let’s agree that we all screw up, make poor decisions and respond in ways we wish we wouldn’t but are working on being better, acting better, and doing better. So even if the surface doesn’t look amazing, deep down we are all doing our best. 

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The Easy-To-Please Mom

The Easy-To-Please Mom

Starch. Clean sheets. Kids learning French in ballet class. Don't we love those heavenly moments where life runs like a smooth machine? (Before the diaper blowout and temper tantrum that is!) Staying the “chill mom” on the smooth days is easy enough, but am I easy to please when the day goes off the tracks??

When my plans go down the drain, my kids are looking to see how hard I am to please. Will I lose my joy over a clogged sink, smashed sweet potato on my shoe, or green slime in someone's hair? (True story) Is my joy tied to my excellence and expectations of perfection? To take myself much less seriously, I love to think of the extreme, hard case, shocking example of an impossible to please mom in the Bible.     

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The Comparison Trap

The Comparison Trap

During my high school years, I used to pole-vault. Even though I’m typically afraid of heights, I felt drawn to this sport. There was something about raising the bar and achieving new heights that felt exhilarating. The first time my dad came to one of my track meets, I couldn’t wait to show him my new sport. I knew I had the lower heights in the bag, no need to start there. So I waited until a few rounds passed until I jumped in. Even though I practiced my minimum heights a thousand times, my nerves kicked in. Dad was watching this time - I wanted to make him proud! I had three chances to make the mark … and in all three I couldn’t get my bum over the bar. My cheeks flushed red when I looked up at my dad. I felt like I must be such a disappointment.

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When You Are At the End of Your Rope

When You Are At the End of Your Rope

Have you ever heard of the phrase ‘tap out’ in parenting? It is often used when one parent is simply at the end of their rope and needs to tap out and have the other parent take over. I often hear about this among other stay-at-home moms when they reference having one of those exhausting, ‘one thing after the other’ type of days where they desperately need to “tap out” once their husbands gets home from work, even if it’s just for ten minutes to regroup. 

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