Mom Mentor Creator & Founder
I am officially middle-aged! I have gone up the hill and am now SLOWLY going down the other side.
I am married to my best friend! No really! Our first 10 months of dating were spent entirely in group settings, either working along side each other in ministry or at our families homes. We never had alone time. We never held hands. We never kissed. So we had a great amount of time to talk and really get to know each other. We read books, received counsel from our pastors, discussed our strengths and weaknesses in front of our parents, and built a foundation of friendship that I am forever grateful for. And let me tell you...when we did have our first kiss 10 months in....there were fireworks baby!!!! We were married in the fall of 2000 and co-pastor Grace Church in Oceanside, CA. We are living out our dream and calling side by side.
I am a mom of 4. We have three girls and a boy.
When we gave birth to my first girl, Sophie (almost 18), we thought we were amazing parents. She slept through the night, hardly every fussed, was beautiful and easy. First child syndrome...I know.
When I gave birth to Mattie nearly two years later everything changed. She was colicky from the start, she had red raspberries on her face that turned BRIGHT RED when she screamed...so that was all the time, and as she grew, it didn't get any better. I seriously thought at one point she was demon possessed because her outrageous fits where over the top. I could often be found in a fetal position crying when Matthew, my husband, came home. Little did I know then that Mattie and her over-the-top fits would be the catalyst for so many future ministry moments with other moms in desperate need of help and advice on raising toddlers...who too were crazy! And by the way, Mattie is one amazing daughter! She is super mellow now, a worship leader to kids, has a heart of gold, and we actually call her the "toddler whisperer". LOL. Who knew the toddler who drove us to our knees would be so good with them as a teenager.
We thought we were done. After Mattie I was like, "No way! I can't risk having another kid like that! The only way I will get pregnant again is if God speaks to me directly, and I don't think He is planning that." Welp....I was wrong. I heard God speak to me one night at a conference that we were to have a third child and He spoke some very special promises to me about this child. So out popped Lillian (aka Lily).
Lily was one of those babies that everyone gravitated too. She had and still does have a spirit about her that is so welcoming, loving, and kind. People just love her and she loves people. I am so glad I obeyed the Lord on this one. After Lily we felt done. This time it was Matthew who said, "If we are supposed to have any more children, God is going to have to speak to me directly." Fast forward 9 years!
In August of 2016 we were on a much needed family vacation, the five of us. It was at this time that God whispered in the ear of my husband that we were to adopt a child from our mission field, San Diego County. Matthew told me what God said, and of course I said, "Let's do it!" You can read all about our adoption story here, but November 1st, 2017, at age 4 1/2, Shawn came into our home and became our son.
I am a freelance graphic designer by trade and a pastor by calling, but I felt like there was something more I should be doing. Recently I asked myself a question..."What brings me life?" It was easy for me to answer. I LOVE helping young moms navigate through motherhood. I love giving advice to help women get through tough and trying seasons of life. There is a generation of moms out there who have broken relationships with their own mothers and feel like they have no one to turn to. This breaks my heart. No mom should have to go through life alone without anyone to lean on. And this is where Mom Mentor was birthed. My husband and I also host two podcasts. One is called Parenting on the Go and the other is Marriage on the Go, so you can take us with you and get practical and biblical parenting and marriage advice in a convenient way. We would love for you to listen and subscribe to them on iTunes, GooglePlay, or Spotify!
So that is me in a nutshell. I am pretty simple, not high maintenance, a lover of mac-and-cheese and chai lattes, and slightly obsessed with all things dystopian. I am glad to have met you and I look forward to our journey together!
Love & Blessings,